First, I have to say that I was caught red-handed by a junior guy going through my coworker crush's stuff this afternoon. I already know everything about his wife etc, but I somehow cannot help but look into his stuff in the office to remind myself of his not talked about private life. I know it's wrong, but seriously I could be misled on the wrong path if I never found out about the situation between him and his wife. I again had to recheck his details today at work when no one was around, but in walked a junior guy. I was so embarrassed. He immediately said, "Don't worry, I'm not him." Gosh, will he tell him? It doesn't matter. Those are the facts, and I would just have to confront it if asked. I just found it hard to find an excuse in fact to cover up the act. So someone in the office knows. I should stop with that infatuation route immediately. It is not ethical and I already have enough details about it to stop right now. Gosh, how awkward will it be come Monday morning in a few hours. Let's just bury that episode away. I trust he has enough understanding not to share the information.
I went to a karaoke get-together organized by my entrepreneur friend A this afternoon. He wanted to introduce me to his friend, an Asian/Chinese South African dentist for a while. The guy is very solid, a bit on the quiet side. His parents were also born in South Africa, so despite his looks, he does not speak or understand Chinese at all. How do you know if really could go for someone, start a relationship/perhaps marriage? You don't have the butterfly in your stomach, so perhaps you shouldn't even look for that when you are older? Just build and establish? But then on what basis would you make that choice? Just because they are the same race, or just because you think they have the opposite personality traits so you could complement each other? I have agreed to a hike the South African Chinese guy is organizing, so to understand him more. That's worthwhile, and it is not a total chore to be with.
At gym today, I bumped into an old friend, a 44-year-old Indian / American guy. He wants to find someone to marry before he's 46, and proposed that I date/marry him if I don't find anyone after 35. He kept recommending himself as a patient person who can manage me, which he thinks the person for me. I said I'm not interested and do not want to deal with the Indian culture. He's an interesting person to talk to, quite cynical but realistic at that stage. He said I wouldn't meet any good guys at the gym as most of them have their minds set on making more money and advancing their career entirely and I would probably get in the way.
I also had Italian for dinner with an ex-coworker. Whereas there was always a distance while working there, I find ex-coworkers are great to talk to once you are ex. We had the same experience and sufferings and joy while going through a stage of our lives together. The bond only becomes stronger afterwards. She's also going to keep her eyes out for potential candidate while I keep mine open for potential job opportunities for her.
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