Better to be with opposite or same?

Interestingly enough, I've only shared my blog with under five good friends, probably getting very few views.  Writing itself however still comforts me, helping me digest my emotions and thoughts and flushing it for other matters.  I have felt quite unproductive for the past two weeks.  Not writing a single piece at work makes me feel rather not sure what you would say.. stale, despite my more prolific blog writing.

Met up with two girls in the industry for lunch on Friday.  One told me that the Wharton alumni get-together in Shanghai has become not so innocent, with girls not from the school attending events to fish for guys.  Ah.. the dating world.  I think the best way is probably to meet people through friends.  As I walked through town today, I am just so tired looking at the hustle and bustle, the 'hoi polloi's trying to make a living.  Not trying your best in a busy city like Hong Kong can make you easily eliminated in the competition.  Chinese people, especially regular mainlanders just have to try so much harder to make up for the loss of opportunities from previous generation, the sheer number of people competing for a few prized spots and the pressure from the income disparity.  The drive for success is admirable as well as daunting.

Talking with my ex in SF who is now married with a kid (I talk to him about once a week) and my friend in New York who was married about how compatible the couple would be if they have opposite personality traits or similar ones.  My New York friend noted that two quiet types can be together, and one passionate and one calm type may be together, but it would be harder for two passionate ones to be together.

Is it better if you are from the same professional background?  My ex-associate said both her husband and her work in finance and it is good to be in the same small macro-environment.  Another professor friend is marrying another professor the share the same academic environment.  I have heard that the more similar you are, the more you can appreciate one another.  It also makes it easier for one to hurt the other.  As for me, I think I may be the similar type- it would be nice for someone to appreciate who I am.

I am happy to have a supportive group of friends here in Hong Kong.  I didn't talk to my work crush at all last week.  Somehow I think he cares more about himself than others.  Whether it be for work reason or by nature, it is time that I put that to a rest.  I was still extremely jealous when he talks or flirts with girls and had to put on a headphone.  I wonder how he would introduce his wife once she arrives in Hong Kong.  Will I run into her?  I need a new distraction.