At this point simultaneously.. why didn't they teach us..

Last night I met up with V, my handsome French business school classmate visiting on a business trip.  My original intention shared with an engaged girlfriend is to sleep with him.  If nothing comes of it, at least I would have slept with a hot guy.  He and I have been very good friends for over five years, so I thought this seemed like a good idea when I enacted it in my mind the day before. 

Two things came up when he and I went for a few drinks after he got here though.  One is that he has been dating a Malaysian girl for five years, something he talked little about.  He said he is in the process of deciding to end that relationship, as they do not have the same interests and his consulting job has been taking a toll on his personal life.  The other thing was that he was on his way out of Hong Kong on a 1am flight, leaving little room for foreplay, flirtations, and possible sleeping over.  

Instead, we went to a business school gathering, and met quite a few people.  I met a few possible business associates, and a few people that I could count in my 100 dates, though I have no feeling or connection with them from the onset.  The concern with a white guy here is that the market is becoming increasingly Chinese, and a white expat's opportunities are dwindling here in Asia.  Perhaps a more established and seasoned one would have been better.  Anyway, there are always things to deal with. 

Although we did not get to sleep together, V and I got closer talking about this stage of our life.  He is 3 years older than me and somehow he started going off on how he now thought about settling down after seeing his sister just give birth and how much it brought joy to this over-worked corporate lawyer haggled with the stress of work before.  Her face just lit up, he said.  V, the free agent, the one who never wanted to get married, told me that he is for sure going to get married and have kids.  

He also shared how we follow society and family's advice to work hard in school and then look for a good professional career, all that time when we were stressing over those goals, we could have looked for that significant other and built on our personal lives.  No one taught us / told us to.  Yes, especially as a woman.  

I actually met quite a few people at the event.  My heart mostly is set on two married guys though.  One I just broke up with who I had a long distance for eight years (can I say that our connection is awesome?) but because of kids and distance, it was best that we separate.  The other is my neighbor at work, a guy who is very eloquent in both Chinese and English, who I share a lot of the same interest, background, and connection.  I think he is a nice distraction, but a distraction nonetheless.  I waited around for him to come back from meetings so I could ask him to go to lunch.  He brought back lunch though.  I had a nice chat with him.  I like him a lot.  Anyway, he never talks about his wife but I know she will be joining him soon.  It seems almost like a soap opera.  On toward my pursuit.  It should be fun. I am looking forward to a life with another guy, building a family, etc.  Will this be the year?