I read about how money is the number one reason couples get divorced. As we grow older, we are ever more conscious about the importance of money, especially in a city like Hong Kong, where the money is the basis that greases the society's operation. If that is the case, one cannot ignore money in the equation when considering a union, dating, or getting married. No wonder how taboo it may seem, it does a play a part in the happiness of two people.
In evaluating money, I have noticed that so many people in Hong Kong seem to have sold their soul in order to survive in a money-greased machine. They value everything by money. They will come to you when you have it and leave when you no longer have it. So many I've met would ignore you if they judge you to be less worthy in their pursuit to obtain money. Quite a few seem to value nothing other than money in life - their existence nothing more than a part in the machine. Sometimes I see these people and I think that they are more like Gollum in Lord of the Rings. Perhaps in a different environment, they would have more conscience, but here, they have surrendered to the all-powerful force of money.
I think I just can't like Asians because most are born into that mentality. Many of the white people in Hong Kong are also subject to it, but it is at least not cultural. Ordinary mainlanders, perhaps because of their younger age, seem to be less subject to the contagion than their Hong Kong counterparts, who seemed to learn about the rat race from an early age.
I visited the Spanish meetup group for the first time today. It was quite good. I think my character is more like the Spanish type. I like their passion and their heart when they meet new people. A Hong Kong guy came and just hogged up the whole conversation, also tried to play himself up as someone working for a bank when he just did some IT work. Nothing against that, but one needs to be honest. So unromantic.
I had a connection with a Spanish guy I met. He taught English and Spanish in China and Hong Kong. The thing is I wonder about these people who are not in banking if money would come between us. I thought about a Peruvian guy I know from my college who was a PhD in the Bay Area. I liked him. He was fun and international. For a long time, he wanted to settle down but could not find a girl in the Bay Area. Now he already found someone, Chinese girl no less, from eHarmony. I could have been with that guy. He would have been a good companion. To meet someone entirely new from a different line of work, with much less economic potential is a barrier. But we shall see. On the other hand, I find that my Spanish is quite good. I didn't forget much of it and am quite fluent. A pat on my back for my language ability.
Thursday, January 31, 2013
Tuesday, January 29, 2013
HK$600 for more friends and contacts
I was reluctant to go to a school lunch event at the China Club yesterday where a famous professor came to speak because they asked for HK$600. I thought no lunch should be this expensive, even at the more posh China Club. Last minute though, I gave in and signed up. It turned out quite memorable. The psychology is now 80 years old and still full of energy. A luxurious career and wisdom made his talk ever more engaging - I seem to have gotten that feeling as if I was the curious 18 year old in college again, full of expectation and curiosity.
The event also helped me make a couple more friends. They are more established in their career and life - I guess those who are willing to pay HK$600 for lunch are self-selected to be from that group. I made a few friends who went to business school at different years and a few professional contacts. I asked them out for lunch.
In addition, the younger guy from the Shanghai university contacted me and we are scheduled for lunch next week. Then an okcupid guy reached out. He also happens to be Indian. I'm not really into that category, since I'd rather stick with what I know, Chinese or American/maybe European. But it's good to practice dating and practice being a woman through meeting people. My one-time sex experience recently contacted me again, wanting to meet up. I was tired from work and want to postpone it to this weekend.
So at least something is going on... I shall know what I want from experience. I'm glad I'm getting over my two crush who are rather unavailable and finally marching forward in finding a love that I can call my own. Even if I shall fail in the process, I would be satisfied that I at least tried my best.
The event also helped me make a couple more friends. They are more established in their career and life - I guess those who are willing to pay HK$600 for lunch are self-selected to be from that group. I made a few friends who went to business school at different years and a few professional contacts. I asked them out for lunch.
In addition, the younger guy from the Shanghai university contacted me and we are scheduled for lunch next week. Then an okcupid guy reached out. He also happens to be Indian. I'm not really into that category, since I'd rather stick with what I know, Chinese or American/maybe European. But it's good to practice dating and practice being a woman through meeting people. My one-time sex experience recently contacted me again, wanting to meet up. I was tired from work and want to postpone it to this weekend.
So at least something is going on... I shall know what I want from experience. I'm glad I'm getting over my two crush who are rather unavailable and finally marching forward in finding a love that I can call my own. Even if I shall fail in the process, I would be satisfied that I at least tried my best.
Saturday, January 26, 2013
Carpe diem
What I found these days is that my time is limited. Between caring about work, running errands to keep the apartment in shape, working out, meeting friends and also keeping an eye out for the next best work opportunity, there leaves little time for anything else. This makes a bit impatient when I meet some friends and become trapped in a situation without learning anything new. As one friend pointed out, the opportunity cost is getting higher every time.
I met up with a business school friend of mine new in town from Europe, her husband, and another friend Friday night. I was reluctant to have dinner when I didn't feel exactly hungry so ate beforehand, but wanted to meet them anyhow to socialize. I then became quite impatient because I went to drinks afterwards and felt awkward about leaving. All three people I know very well and I didn't feel like our friendship would become stronger by spending more time in LKF checking out new bars. But because there are only three, I felt compelled to stay the entire time. I could have rested at home and did my work, whether researching for investments or relationships. They came to my place afterwards and I had to gather enough courage to ask them to leave past midnight.
Anyway, lesson is that I really need to be more independent and take time into my own hands. Those single friends were quite strategic and never stay that long in activities that seem to drag on. At this time in my life, I think I'm quite sure about who I am and do not need to bum around to find my interest or my goals, to find out who I am. When one is young, he or she is trying to find out his/her place in the world, a track to follow. For me, I think those decisions have been made both consciously and unconsciously, and we all need to just deal with what we have. Which means, carpe diem.
Had lunch with an undergrad friend in the investment field and his wife - both transplants from Canada a decade ago. Unlike me, often confused and undecided about where I should be, the guy is quite certain about his choice to be back in Hong Kong even though he was born and raised in Vancouver and attended the best undergraduate and business school in the States. Like me, he is not entirely interested in technology that dominates the San Francisco bay area. Granted that he is now married and has a young kid, I think I should still learn from his single-mindedness. There is no time in the world to ponder about all the possibilities. We are all working with the limited time and resources on hand. I do appreciate Hong Kong and need to focus.
I did check out the new Swire building in my neighborhood. An ultra luxurious building, the inside was really nice. Average rent ran above 10K USD per month. I thought about sharing the apartment with two to three roommates so we could all enjoy a nice lifestyle, but it is probably not that practical. My taste for good living keeps increasing. There is nothing wrong with that. It keeps life motivated and interesting. Can I still fall in love and be loved with such driven heart for a ever better life?
To end the evening, I went to a Shanghainese university's new year's party. Being by myself and unrelated to anyone, I felt awkward but quickly made many friends. People seem more focused on improving their lives, and I did learn a lot professionally and socially. What I find is that people who are trying to make it tend to be more modest. I liked the crowd, where I did meet a few interesting people. The one guy who graduated a few years before me from the university sat next to me but later revealed that he already has a seven year old kid. Good to know since other than meeting the age criteria and background, I didn't find him physically attractive. Another guy seems very nice and down to earth and is also in finance, but he is three years younger.
The MC of the evening, a guy, began the party by commenting that 70% of the participants are female and he could do nothing about people's complaint how limited the number of guys are here in Hong Kong and even fewer the number of available guys. This makes the situation for someone crashing the party just a bit embarrassing. Good thing is that quite a few girls there were just friends of the alumni and did not attend the school themselves. On the way back, a young IB girl complained some more about the notorious ratio of men vs. women. She said the reason is that in Hong Kong has more girls in general from birth. From the mainland side, the statistics is skewed because the girls tend to do better than guys in school and more qualified for schools in Hong Kong. They also dominate the junior positions in finance as well. I said perhaps they are more easily controlled. In any case, that topic is so talked about and there is no need to dwell on it. We should just look forward. Enjoy the present and plan for the future.
It was an evening well spent. I learned about how to get a driver's license in Hong Kong, the intricacies of enrolling a child in school, and the two golf courses in Shenzhen. I also learned that the university's alumni are working in all professions, such as teacher, journalists, media, in addition to finance. Lots of people are young and also attending school in Hong Kong. Most want to stay for the PR status and hoping not to get fired in the financial crisis coupled with unemployment here in Hong Kong. It's good to connect with them and understand their lives. I find a closer connection there.
I met up with a business school friend of mine new in town from Europe, her husband, and another friend Friday night. I was reluctant to have dinner when I didn't feel exactly hungry so ate beforehand, but wanted to meet them anyhow to socialize. I then became quite impatient because I went to drinks afterwards and felt awkward about leaving. All three people I know very well and I didn't feel like our friendship would become stronger by spending more time in LKF checking out new bars. But because there are only three, I felt compelled to stay the entire time. I could have rested at home and did my work, whether researching for investments or relationships. They came to my place afterwards and I had to gather enough courage to ask them to leave past midnight.
Anyway, lesson is that I really need to be more independent and take time into my own hands. Those single friends were quite strategic and never stay that long in activities that seem to drag on. At this time in my life, I think I'm quite sure about who I am and do not need to bum around to find my interest or my goals, to find out who I am. When one is young, he or she is trying to find out his/her place in the world, a track to follow. For me, I think those decisions have been made both consciously and unconsciously, and we all need to just deal with what we have. Which means, carpe diem.
Had lunch with an undergrad friend in the investment field and his wife - both transplants from Canada a decade ago. Unlike me, often confused and undecided about where I should be, the guy is quite certain about his choice to be back in Hong Kong even though he was born and raised in Vancouver and attended the best undergraduate and business school in the States. Like me, he is not entirely interested in technology that dominates the San Francisco bay area. Granted that he is now married and has a young kid, I think I should still learn from his single-mindedness. There is no time in the world to ponder about all the possibilities. We are all working with the limited time and resources on hand. I do appreciate Hong Kong and need to focus.
I did check out the new Swire building in my neighborhood. An ultra luxurious building, the inside was really nice. Average rent ran above 10K USD per month. I thought about sharing the apartment with two to three roommates so we could all enjoy a nice lifestyle, but it is probably not that practical. My taste for good living keeps increasing. There is nothing wrong with that. It keeps life motivated and interesting. Can I still fall in love and be loved with such driven heart for a ever better life?
To end the evening, I went to a Shanghainese university's new year's party. Being by myself and unrelated to anyone, I felt awkward but quickly made many friends. People seem more focused on improving their lives, and I did learn a lot professionally and socially. What I find is that people who are trying to make it tend to be more modest. I liked the crowd, where I did meet a few interesting people. The one guy who graduated a few years before me from the university sat next to me but later revealed that he already has a seven year old kid. Good to know since other than meeting the age criteria and background, I didn't find him physically attractive. Another guy seems very nice and down to earth and is also in finance, but he is three years younger.
The MC of the evening, a guy, began the party by commenting that 70% of the participants are female and he could do nothing about people's complaint how limited the number of guys are here in Hong Kong and even fewer the number of available guys. This makes the situation for someone crashing the party just a bit embarrassing. Good thing is that quite a few girls there were just friends of the alumni and did not attend the school themselves. On the way back, a young IB girl complained some more about the notorious ratio of men vs. women. She said the reason is that in Hong Kong has more girls in general from birth. From the mainland side, the statistics is skewed because the girls tend to do better than guys in school and more qualified for schools in Hong Kong. They also dominate the junior positions in finance as well. I said perhaps they are more easily controlled. In any case, that topic is so talked about and there is no need to dwell on it. We should just look forward. Enjoy the present and plan for the future.
It was an evening well spent. I learned about how to get a driver's license in Hong Kong, the intricacies of enrolling a child in school, and the two golf courses in Shenzhen. I also learned that the university's alumni are working in all professions, such as teacher, journalists, media, in addition to finance. Lots of people are young and also attending school in Hong Kong. Most want to stay for the PR status and hoping not to get fired in the financial crisis coupled with unemployment here in Hong Kong. It's good to connect with them and understand their lives. I find a closer connection there.
Wednesday, January 23, 2013
Scored
Finally after a dry spell since May last year, I ventured to sleep with a guy last night under the encouragement of my friend on a different continent. Just get the sex over with. I never did it with a stranger. This guy I got was off of the internet, an Indian who worked a number of years in New York before coming to Hong Kong. I've never been with an Indian before, so now I've checked off the list of different nationalities and races, except for Chinese, my own race, which I would really like to have more experience with.
He came by and I could see he was quite a gym bluff, muscular and quite good looking. We talked about 10 minutes before I suggested that we just dive right into it. It feels nice to have sex (yes, I admit I have higher needs than most others I know). He was kind and we chatted afterwards about work life etc. A decent guy. Smart. And happens to live two buildings away from me. He said that's what most of the city is looking for anyway, and it is hard to find that partner in bars when you can hardly hear most of what the other person is saying and the guys are just waiting for the girls to get drunk. A lot of times that comes unsuccessfully. True. Why not just start with sex and get it over with?
My day seemed more perked up because of a short 30 minutes last night. I think I'd like to do more of it. No strings attached. There are quite a few interesting people that started chatting with me on okcupid. I can take my pick. Get to know what I want. I had lunch with a reporter in my space at the Foreign Correspondents' Club. She's relatively new in Hong Kong, having grown up and worked in the US before. She talked about her past relationships but said that most people she meets in Hong Kong are married or dating someone. She hopes to meet someone organically but it is harder to meet someone that way. I agree. Need to get out of the box. This inventive way to meet may just work.
He came by and I could see he was quite a gym bluff, muscular and quite good looking. We talked about 10 minutes before I suggested that we just dive right into it. It feels nice to have sex (yes, I admit I have higher needs than most others I know). He was kind and we chatted afterwards about work life etc. A decent guy. Smart. And happens to live two buildings away from me. He said that's what most of the city is looking for anyway, and it is hard to find that partner in bars when you can hardly hear most of what the other person is saying and the guys are just waiting for the girls to get drunk. A lot of times that comes unsuccessfully. True. Why not just start with sex and get it over with?
My day seemed more perked up because of a short 30 minutes last night. I think I'd like to do more of it. No strings attached. There are quite a few interesting people that started chatting with me on okcupid. I can take my pick. Get to know what I want. I had lunch with a reporter in my space at the Foreign Correspondents' Club. She's relatively new in Hong Kong, having grown up and worked in the US before. She talked about her past relationships but said that most people she meets in Hong Kong are married or dating someone. She hopes to meet someone organically but it is harder to meet someone that way. I agree. Need to get out of the box. This inventive way to meet may just work.
Tuesday, January 22, 2013
Stories and advice from a partner
I had a very engaging lunch with a senior partner of a major firm yesterday. I met her years ago through alumni activities when I first arrived in Hong Kong and she's about twenty years older with a few beautiful kids. An white American woman, she married a Chinese guy she met on a vacation in China.
To sum up some really great and wise advice:
- Pray - all her answers were answered, it is just timing that is different. Timing is not something one could control. This worked with her marriage and her kids.
- Take a few classes, accounting or cooking, what not.
- Love happens. Her husband is the love of her life. She thinks most couples around her are in love. This goes against the more cynical view from my other friends who are or were married that only 10% of the married couples are actually happy. Single women just rush into marriage because they think it would make them happier, but lots just become glorified housekeepers.
- People with similar background don't always work. She had opportunity to date a CEO guy with exactly same background, schooling, etc., but she knew he's not the one. Rather, it was love at first sight with her husband.
- Relationships need work. Though her husband and her both have people around them with similar backgrounds, they both don't pursue those relationships. Love needs protection.
- Kids are amazing. In difficult times when relationship is rocky, kids bring couples together.
Along with a nice sunny day, it made me feel good. I also bumped into an older Scottish guy I admired in my old firm on my way back. He was happy to see me after two years and so was I. He gave me advice before like four years prior that I need to attend every party and every wedding to increase my chances. He himself met his wife at a mutual friend's party.
I guess you can meet people everywhere. Sit back and allow things to happen at their own pace. Such is life.
To sum up some really great and wise advice:
- Pray - all her answers were answered, it is just timing that is different. Timing is not something one could control. This worked with her marriage and her kids.
- Take a few classes, accounting or cooking, what not.
- Love happens. Her husband is the love of her life. She thinks most couples around her are in love. This goes against the more cynical view from my other friends who are or were married that only 10% of the married couples are actually happy. Single women just rush into marriage because they think it would make them happier, but lots just become glorified housekeepers.
- People with similar background don't always work. She had opportunity to date a CEO guy with exactly same background, schooling, etc., but she knew he's not the one. Rather, it was love at first sight with her husband.
- Relationships need work. Though her husband and her both have people around them with similar backgrounds, they both don't pursue those relationships. Love needs protection.
- Kids are amazing. In difficult times when relationship is rocky, kids bring couples together.
Along with a nice sunny day, it made me feel good. I also bumped into an older Scottish guy I admired in my old firm on my way back. He was happy to see me after two years and so was I. He gave me advice before like four years prior that I need to attend every party and every wedding to increase my chances. He himself met his wife at a mutual friend's party.
I guess you can meet people everywhere. Sit back and allow things to happen at their own pace. Such is life.
Saturday, January 19, 2013
Better to be with opposite or same?
Interestingly enough, I've only shared my blog with under five good friends, probably getting very few views. Writing itself however still comforts me, helping me digest my emotions and thoughts and flushing it for other matters. I have felt quite unproductive for the past two weeks. Not writing a single piece at work makes me feel rather not sure what you would say.. stale, despite my more prolific blog writing.
Met up with two girls in the industry for lunch on Friday. One told me that the Wharton alumni get-together in Shanghai has become not so innocent, with girls not from the school attending events to fish for guys. Ah.. the dating world. I think the best way is probably to meet people through friends. As I walked through town today, I am just so tired looking at the hustle and bustle, the 'hoi polloi's trying to make a living. Not trying your best in a busy city like Hong Kong can make you easily eliminated in the competition. Chinese people, especially regular mainlanders just have to try so much harder to make up for the loss of opportunities from previous generation, the sheer number of people competing for a few prized spots and the pressure from the income disparity. The drive for success is admirable as well as daunting.
Talking with my ex in SF who is now married with a kid (I talk to him about once a week) and my friend in New York who was married about how compatible the couple would be if they have opposite personality traits or similar ones. My New York friend noted that two quiet types can be together, and one passionate and one calm type may be together, but it would be harder for two passionate ones to be together.
Is it better if you are from the same professional background? My ex-associate said both her husband and her work in finance and it is good to be in the same small macro-environment. Another professor friend is marrying another professor the share the same academic environment. I have heard that the more similar you are, the more you can appreciate one another. It also makes it easier for one to hurt the other. As for me, I think I may be the similar type- it would be nice for someone to appreciate who I am.
I am happy to have a supportive group of friends here in Hong Kong. I didn't talk to my work crush at all last week. Somehow I think he cares more about himself than others. Whether it be for work reason or by nature, it is time that I put that to a rest. I was still extremely jealous when he talks or flirts with girls and had to put on a headphone. I wonder how he would introduce his wife once she arrives in Hong Kong. Will I run into her? I need a new distraction.
Met up with two girls in the industry for lunch on Friday. One told me that the Wharton alumni get-together in Shanghai has become not so innocent, with girls not from the school attending events to fish for guys. Ah.. the dating world. I think the best way is probably to meet people through friends. As I walked through town today, I am just so tired looking at the hustle and bustle, the 'hoi polloi's trying to make a living. Not trying your best in a busy city like Hong Kong can make you easily eliminated in the competition. Chinese people, especially regular mainlanders just have to try so much harder to make up for the loss of opportunities from previous generation, the sheer number of people competing for a few prized spots and the pressure from the income disparity. The drive for success is admirable as well as daunting.
Talking with my ex in SF who is now married with a kid (I talk to him about once a week) and my friend in New York who was married about how compatible the couple would be if they have opposite personality traits or similar ones. My New York friend noted that two quiet types can be together, and one passionate and one calm type may be together, but it would be harder for two passionate ones to be together.
Is it better if you are from the same professional background? My ex-associate said both her husband and her work in finance and it is good to be in the same small macro-environment. Another professor friend is marrying another professor the share the same academic environment. I have heard that the more similar you are, the more you can appreciate one another. It also makes it easier for one to hurt the other. As for me, I think I may be the similar type- it would be nice for someone to appreciate who I am.
I am happy to have a supportive group of friends here in Hong Kong. I didn't talk to my work crush at all last week. Somehow I think he cares more about himself than others. Whether it be for work reason or by nature, it is time that I put that to a rest. I was still extremely jealous when he talks or flirts with girls and had to put on a headphone. I wonder how he would introduce his wife once she arrives in Hong Kong. Will I run into her? I need a new distraction.
Thursday, January 17, 2013
A mature ex-associate and a corporate dinner
So the only time I could expand on my network is during lunch and dinner time in the week. Preferably not both those occasions would involve eating as it deters from my goal of losing weight. Yesterday was such a day, but nonetheless it was worthwhile.
I met up with my associate who actually left half a year ago. I wanted to catch up with her for a while but somehow could not find her details for the longest time. When finally we met up yesterday, it coincided with the institutional investor voting period and I was embarrassed that it might be construed as an effort to gather votes rather than a genuine reach-out of a friendly nature. Nonetheless, it was a pleasant lunch. She was good-natured and sweet, and made me feel guilty if I had ever shouted at her or mistreated her as I had accustomed to see others do in the industry. I hope I have not been corrupted. Working in this industry in Hong Kong has made me very money-conscious but I know I should not lose my value for anything, because how would a life be worth living if not for the essence you bring into it.
While I hoped I would follow up on a casual comment she made before leaving that she has a friend who she wants to introduce to me as a potential partner, the direction of the conversation went a different direction. She probably thought I had intention of some kind when reaching out to her. So if not love, it must then be career or votes. She offered to send my CV to her department come Apr/May when it would be expanding in my division. Feeling renewed in the faith of mankind and my connection with my people (sigh), I walked away feeling both guilty for not being a better person to others in the world and lucky for being the recipient of good will.
I think although I try not to get into the friction between Hongkies and the mainlanders, I cannot ignore the contempt Hongkies have for mainlanders, partly out of historical legacy mindset and partly out of self-protection for their own worth in an ever changing political and economic landscape. The mainlanders at the same time are ever more clich-ish, also a legacy from the mono-ethnic environment most grew up with, consolidating the existing difference and tension between the two parties. Singapore's Lee Kuan Yew did it particularly well in requiring differences races to go to the same school and attend the military service. That of course, would be saved for a future time as Taiwan, Hong Kong and mainland slowly melt into one.
As for dinner, I met up with a corporate manager from mainland along with a few managers from my bank's side. I always learn a lot from these talkative young mainland people. I connect in heart and spirit but not complete in knowledge or experience, thereby leaving a hole that I'd like to fill. The talkative ones do the job for me without me risking my pride and authority. The guy seems very outgoing and in the Chinese context, I thought he'd be a good candidate to date, though his English would be poor and his teeth for some reason is very yellow. I thought the later would be an easy point for him to change to win in having a kissable mouth.
To end, I should really be more focused and motivated at work. I have been slacking for two weeks. Need to complete two big reports at least before the Chinese New Year holiday, which I plan to spend in the States.
I met up with my associate who actually left half a year ago. I wanted to catch up with her for a while but somehow could not find her details for the longest time. When finally we met up yesterday, it coincided with the institutional investor voting period and I was embarrassed that it might be construed as an effort to gather votes rather than a genuine reach-out of a friendly nature. Nonetheless, it was a pleasant lunch. She was good-natured and sweet, and made me feel guilty if I had ever shouted at her or mistreated her as I had accustomed to see others do in the industry. I hope I have not been corrupted. Working in this industry in Hong Kong has made me very money-conscious but I know I should not lose my value for anything, because how would a life be worth living if not for the essence you bring into it.
While I hoped I would follow up on a casual comment she made before leaving that she has a friend who she wants to introduce to me as a potential partner, the direction of the conversation went a different direction. She probably thought I had intention of some kind when reaching out to her. So if not love, it must then be career or votes. She offered to send my CV to her department come Apr/May when it would be expanding in my division. Feeling renewed in the faith of mankind and my connection with my people (sigh), I walked away feeling both guilty for not being a better person to others in the world and lucky for being the recipient of good will.
I think although I try not to get into the friction between Hongkies and the mainlanders, I cannot ignore the contempt Hongkies have for mainlanders, partly out of historical legacy mindset and partly out of self-protection for their own worth in an ever changing political and economic landscape. The mainlanders at the same time are ever more clich-ish, also a legacy from the mono-ethnic environment most grew up with, consolidating the existing difference and tension between the two parties. Singapore's Lee Kuan Yew did it particularly well in requiring differences races to go to the same school and attend the military service. That of course, would be saved for a future time as Taiwan, Hong Kong and mainland slowly melt into one.
As for dinner, I met up with a corporate manager from mainland along with a few managers from my bank's side. I always learn a lot from these talkative young mainland people. I connect in heart and spirit but not complete in knowledge or experience, thereby leaving a hole that I'd like to fill. The talkative ones do the job for me without me risking my pride and authority. The guy seems very outgoing and in the Chinese context, I thought he'd be a good candidate to date, though his English would be poor and his teeth for some reason is very yellow. I thought the later would be an easy point for him to change to win in having a kissable mouth.
To end, I should really be more focused and motivated at work. I have been slacking for two weeks. Need to complete two big reports at least before the Chinese New Year holiday, which I plan to spend in the States.
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