"I'm onto my third guy in my one and half year in Hong Kong" she says...

I just came back from marketing event where I went to see a big American fund here in Hong Kong.  The guys I met were sharp and presented themselves well.  They did not have any obvious issues - like bald head, fat tummy, bad English or general lack of charisma and energy.  Yes, they were quality candidates. Chinese, western, highly educated probably with an obvious good job with good pay.

But there was almost no chemistry between us.  One guy was being aggressive in his questioning while the other guy toned him down a bit.  When the meeting finished, the salesgirl walked in.  She is a pretty girl from southern California who knew and flaunted her beauty.  She was kind of flirtatious and chatted with the two investment managers.  One smiled at her warmly as we walked out.  Such a different attitude.

She later revealed to me and the other analyst that she used to date the portfolio manager, who is still her friend.  He's too Chinese (mainland), she says.  He's from Guangzhou.  Oh, so like xxx?  I asked.  Yes, just like my crush.  I've been in Hong Kong for a year and half, and I am already on my third guy.  She quipped. I looked up her current boyfriend, who is the son of a big family business in Hong Kong.  He also went to school in southern California.

I guess she is the type of girl everyone wants, especially when you can take your pick of the lot.  She's young, pretty, given the chance to a decent education, well groomed.  I already have a lot of the qualities that most people don't have a chance and resources to get.  But in the face of this girl and the guys' reaction, I felt bad about myself.  As an older single girl, I am just going to be ditched by many of my guy peers for young girls like that.  Anyway, I need to take a positive light to this.  I like the girl.  I would probably pick her myself.  But the lesson is that she always remained sunny.  The other girl who chased after my crush also has been dressing up a lot lately.  She ditched her glasses for contacts after I mentioned it.  I need to keep these tips to myself.  I find that whenever I mention it to fellow girls, they instantly take it.

Feminine mystique.  Feminine power. I need to grasp it.  I also need to lighten up and keep all that philosophical thoughts to myself.  It is a lesson and an art I should have learned.  Just like money, it was not taught in school, as Rich Dad Poor Dad Robert Kiyosaki would have said.  Same goes with the feminine part.  Also, I should not save money as much.  Looking good pays and is a better investment than many other asset classes out there.